How To Be Strong When Your Whole World Is Falling Apart

Losing someone is hard. Really hard.

It's like your whole world has stopped, but everybody around you is living their lives like nothing happened, or you've been kicked in the stomach and you're gasping for air, desperate to find out it was all just a horrible nightmare.

You might want to kick and scream and beg for it to not be real, or you might just find yourself standing in a spot, staring at the wall while another wave of despair hits you, like I have been doing over the past 2 weeks.

It came as a shock when my Grampy passed away the day after my birthday. The grief and disbelief that swallowed up my family was hard to process.

My Grampy's always loved family more than anything in the world - he was an incredibly selfless man that would do anything for those that he loved. So going to his funeral last week was probably one of the hardest things I'll ever have to do.

And I think I've had my fair share of bad luck this year.

Losing someone is hard, but unfortunately life does have to go on. You do have to get out of bed, you do have to go to work, you do have to eat and sleep and continue to live your life. But that doesn't mean it's not hard.

But just remember, just because your loved one has been so unfairly taken away from you doesn't mean the memories have to be.

Your world might have stopped, but you have to be strong. And if not for you, for your family and friends that also feel lost in grief.

Remember what's important

What's actually important to you? And I mean important? Not your phone or your laptop or your wardrobe. Surround yourself with positivity - your friends, your family, your pets.

Don't shut yourself off

I'm having a hard time doing this one myself right now, but you can't shut yourself off to the world.
Text your friend back, say YES, you will go for that meal with them next week, go food shopping with your mum or your dad or your boyfriend or girlfriend, go to the gym, go walk your dog, go and do it. You loved doing it before, don't stop now.

Don't take people for granted

I've learned especially over the last few months with everything that's happened, that you can't take the people you love for granted. Silly arguments over who forgot to the lock the door or who left the chips in the oven for 10 more minutes are not reasons to fall out.
Your family and your friends are important. They matter. More than anything else. And you don't know when the last time you'll see them will be. Tell them you love them. Hug them. Laugh with them.

Accept help

Even when you may not want it, or think that you need it. You don't have to be alone. 

Know that you don't always have to be strong

It is a-OK to cry. It is OKAY to be sad. You are allowed, and don't let anybody make you think otherwise. But you have to cry, and then pick yourself back up again. Fix your mascara. Wipe your snotty nose, and move on.

Stop wasting time

STOP. Stop doing nothing. Stop sitting and staring at that wall and get out and make memories. Make the most of the time that you have. Don't hold grudges. Don't cancel plans. You have to live your life.

Keep busy

Similarly, keep busy. DO the things that you love doing, keep working hard, keep trying, and remember that you don't have to do it on your own.

xo, Sophie

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  1. I had to go back and read your earlier post. In difficult times, only time itself will help you heal. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. A house fire terrifies me, and I'm so happy to read you're family is okay. I wish you all the best in school and hope things start to turn around for you.

    1. Thank you so much lovely, it's been awfully difficult but I think we're all just hoping for a bit of good luck now! Xx

  2. I'm sorry for your loss! I hope you've been able to feel better! Your tips are just lovely - I agree it's important to stay busy and to allow yourself to have a bad day!

    Have an awesome day!
    xx Kris